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Let The Starfish Story
“Sleep With The Fishes!”

Tim Gard as the Starfish
Over the years a number of touching, educational and inspiring stories have been written and told in countless cultures, everywhere… It’s just part of what we do as a society, no matter which part of the world we may live in.  Many of these classic tales have then been retold and retold, over and over and over and over and over and over… and over again.  Many just don’t realize that the telling and retelling of a great story can actually be a detriment to the storyteller.  One such story in particular, immediately comes to my mind, and that is “The Starfish Story”.

I first read the Starfish story, years ago, and like many people I was notably touched by its simplistic elicitation of a powerful emotional response.  This story makes a very valuable point, in an amazingly short period of time… a truly remarkable feat in the art of story making, indeed.   The problem with this  however, is that just about everyone else who ever read or heard it seemed to also be so “touched” that the telling of this story became a plague upon the speaking industry.  To the best of my ability as a professional speaker, and researcher, “The Starfish Story” was originally adapted from “The Star Thrower” by Loren Eiseley, a talented author who lived from 1907 – 1977.    It goes like this:

“The Starfish Story “
One day a man was walking along the beach when he noticed a boy picking something up and gently throwing it into the ocean.

Approaching the boy, he asked: “What are you doing?”

The youth replied, “Throwing starfish back into the ocean.  The surf is up and the tide is going out.  If I don’t throw them back, they’ll die.”

“Son,” the man said, “don’t you realize there are miles and miles of beach and hundreds of starfish?  You can’t make a difference!”

After listening politely, the boy bent down, picked up another starfish, and threw it back into the surf.  Then, smiling at the man, he said…  “I made a difference for that one.”

Since first encountering this story I’ve seen it used so frequently here and there and everywhere, it has actually reached a level of irritation that I imagined could only be attained after enduring the song ”It’s A Small World After All” at Disney World about 150 times in a row.

Professional Speakers, trainers and presenters across the planet read “The Star Thrower”, and due to the universal relatability contained within, far too many began sharing it with their audiences in such a way to make it seem that they themselves wrote it, and the impactful tale was indeed “their story”.  It’s a well-known fact that even some of the biggest names in the speaking industry have told The Starfish Story as a part of their programs at one time or another; not all as if it were ‘their own’ of course, but the reality is, leaning on this story as a cornerstone to a presentation has abundantly been a foundation for many emerging, and even established, speakers.

The result of this ‘overuse’ has sadly negated the power of the lovely story.  It’s become (rather unarguably) the best example of a story that if heard once, is impactful; heard twice, is interesting; but from the third time and beyond, is annoyingly and unforgivably pedantic.

Be A Great Storyteller… of your own stories!
On a side note, I truly have no attachment to the level one might be within the speaking or training industry… but let’s face it, if someone tells The Starfish Story in a program at 9:00 am, and another speaker tells it again at 1:00pm, then both end up looking like amateurs… and worst of all, both cheat their audiences out of

the time (and often money) they invested to hear something that might genuinely enrich their life experience.

Speakers and trainers have the professional responsibility to use their own unique stories and (or, if necessary) sprinkle in elements of another’s story, but ALWAYS relying predominantly on their own best creative storytelling and researching skills.

The Starfish isn’t the only one out there that is used and abused by speakers and trainers, even to this day.   Let’s not overlook  “The Chicken and the Eagle”, “The Battleship and the Lighthouse”, “The Frog in Boiling Water”, “The Old Engineer and the Hammer”….. Need I go on?  Google them if you like, read them and enjoy one time, then forget you saw ever them.Tim Gard - Starfish Story

I personally call these stories “shareware”.  To me, they are the “dark side of the force” when it comes to speaking.  (Quick side point:  See what I just did there!?  I brought to mind something we likely all relate to, but did so in a way that helps make my point, not act as the cornerstone of my point!)

So my suggestion to anyone out there using any of these ‘shareware’ stories, please do your career and your audiences a favor and stop.  However wonderful they may each be in their own right, please give the best of yourself to yourself, and subsequently your audiences, and STOP using “shareware”!   Professional Speakers are only legitimately “professional” when

they share authentic, first-hand real life examples, or skillfully weave in well-known tidbits researched and credited to others.  It’s the best – and ONLY – way to separate yourself from the chaff, and potentially become a legend in your own time.

In closing my dear friends, it is my hope with this article, that we all will finally agree it’s time the let  The Starfish Story ”sleep with the fishes” (obscure call back to the Godfather, which I hope some other author didn’t use in the article your read before this one!), and allow it to enjoy a much needed rest.

The Starfish Story:  Retirement Campaign

Having been a subtle advocate for the retirement of ‘shareware’ stories throughout my career, I’ve gone so far as to hand out starfish pins at NSA conferences in an effort to make a quiet yet necessary point (which was of course to encourage the cease and desist of unoriginality).  Not being satisfied with the overall results of these efforts, I recently decided it was indeed appropriate (for the sake of the industry and eager audiences around the world) to throw subtly out the window and simply go all out.

The Starfish Story Retirement:  Help Needed!

My plan of attack was to invite the cooperation of speaker and celebrity Roy Firestone, in the hopes he would help me impart and enforce a new law of the land… and ultimately, inoculate the plague of ‘shareware’.  I was thrilled and

delighted when he agreed to participate, and I hope those reading this will take a moment to watch this unique, self-help video that could change your life so that you might then be inspired to invigorate your own innovative ways of helping change the lives of your audiences.  The video is, in essence The Starfish Story from the point of view of the starfish.

Tim Gard - The Starfish Story Onset

The Moral Here:  Tell your own stories, my friends.  But tell them really well.  Do it so well they become your signature stories and no one can copy you or them – ever.

~ Tim Gard, CSP, CPAE

Tim Gard is a fall-out-of-your-seat funny speaker who has shared his seminars over 2000 times globally and is an author and member of the Speaker Hall of Fame.  Please use the links above to stay connected with him, or share his stories, on facebook, twitter and LinkedIn!

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Tim Gard, CSP, CPAE (with Roy Firestone)

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